Has my husband gotten over me if he goes out with other people when we are apart?

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Sometimes I hear from wives who are worried that their estranged husband has “gotten on” them because he has started seeing other people during the separation. And many worry that if he is over his wife, it means the marriage is over and a divorce will follow. I heard from a wife who said, “My husband and I separated about three months ago. We haven’t been fighting horribly or anything, but my husband hasn’t made any attempts to come home even though there have been cases where we’ve had started to reconnect. At one point, my husband told me he didn’t know if he would ever get over me. This gave me some hope. However, over the last week, he has been honest about the fact that he has started seeing other people. What does this mean for my breakup and my marriage? Does the fact that he sees other people mean he is over me? And if he is over me, is my marriage over? I will try to address these concerns in the next item.

A husband who is seeing other people may be trying to cope or explore instead of moving on: Of course, she had no way of knowing exactly what this husband was thinking. However, I hear from many husbands on my blog and many husbands in this situation are just heartbroken and trying to cope. Sometimes family or friends tell them to “stop being blue” or “move on,” so they feel pressured to see other people, even if their heart isn’t really in it.

Also, sometimes men just want to explore what happens in terms of their thoughts and feelings when they see other people. Sometimes your intention is not to get serious with another person. Rather, they want to see if dating others makes them miss their wife or if other women seem inferior to their wife by comparison. Believe it or not, sometimes this situation really helps the marriage because the husband really finds out that he misses his wife, as seeing the other woman makes him feel empty and makes him want his wife that much more.

I find it hard to believe that a husband can “get over his wife” after only three months or so: This separation had only lasted three months. Unless his marriage was just horrible and made the husband absolutely miserable, it was hard to believe that the husband would completely get over his wife and be ready to move on in that short amount of time. Sure, he could be trying to see another woman because of her size and may even think she’s succeeding. But I suspect that even if he isn’t experiencing overtly negative feelings, somewhere deep down, he must still have feelings for his wife. In my opinion, three months is too soon to completely get over someone. Of course, the husband and others may disagree.

What should you do if you are afraid your husband will get over you or move on during your separation: My best advice would be not to panic. It did not appear that the husband in this situation was dating any woman in particular. He was basically casually dating different people. He was basically starting out and exploring. Of course, this caused the wife to fear that he would eventually move on forever, but, as I said before, that is certainly not always the case. Many times, the husband’s courtship attempt is not entirely successful and makes him miss his wife. That is why she should not jump to conclusions or act in a way that makes her husband feel defensive. I know it’s tempting to want to demand answers from him and ask him what this means. But sometimes if you make too much of this, you actually push him to defend it and therefore go after it even more.

My suggestion would be that you acknowledge that you are worried and confused because he sees other people, but for now, leave it at that and continue observing. He continues to be upbeat and easily approachable and consider adding a bit of mystery to the equation. Honestly, I don’t advise seeing other people just to make him jealous because this will usually just confuse you more. But I don’t think there’s anything wrong with hanging out with your friends or family and letting them wonder where you are. He certainly doesn’t need to think that you’re sitting at home waiting for him. Because if he wonders what you’re doing, he’ll have a little more incentive to assess where he’s going with this. I would like to do more knitting. While creating a bit of mystery is nice, you don’t want to give the impression that you’re moving on or that you’re no longer interested in your husband. Because doing so might give her more incentive to escalate dating him, which is the last thing you want.

Instead, you want to lay a positive foundation for him to want to interact with you and for him to eventually look around and wonder why he’s wasting his time with other women when he could be with you permanently.

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