Top 20 Breakup Mistakes And How To Get Your Ex Back Even If You’ve Made Every One Of Them

If you’re going through a breakup right now, then your emotions are super charged and heightened and you’re just not acting like yourself, are you? Here are the top 20 breakup mistakes that are not only driving your ex crazy, but ensuring you’ll never get back together. I’m going to reveal what they are and then walk you through how you can completely wipe the slate clean and still get them back.

I’ve compiled my top 20 breakup mistakes after months of counseling men and women in 31 countries going through a very painful breakup. I invite you to read each one and take notes if necessary and keep reading until the end where I reveal how you can STILL get them back even if you’ve made all the mistakes on this list!

Mistake #1 – Allowing your ex to totally control your life

You and your ex may not even be aware that you are doing this or actually allowing your ex to do this, but after your breakup, your knee-jerk reaction is to fully analyze virtually every facet of your relationship and your relationship. break to the limit. to go crazy

That’s not going to accomplish anything and will only keep you stuck in the healing process.

Mistake #2: Staying friends with your ex

Many heartbroken people remain friends with their ex for one reason only: in the hope that one day they will realize that they truly are meant to be together.

MISTAKEN. Once you fall into the friend trap, it’s very hard to get out and it’s not something I recommend.

Mistake #3: Bombarding your ex with text messages

Basically, you’re not going to leave your ex just because you don’t want them to move on without you.

This is one of the worst things you can do because often all it does is make sure they made the right decision not to be with you right now.

Mistake #5: Sending your ex angry emails

As stated above, when you make this mistake, you are taking it out on your angry ex about the pain you have caused him.

THIS IS A NO-NO because all it will do is drive a potentially permanent wedge between you and ensure that your ex moves on very quickly.

Mistake #6: Sending desperate emails to your ex

This error is different from #5 because instead of being angry you are desperate. You are acting pretty weak trying to make your ex understand how much he broke your heart and how much you need him in your life.

When you behave this way, you are acting too high maintenance and also too desperate, and that is NOT going to be attractive to your ex!

Mistake #7: Calling your ex 24 hours a day

Let’s face it, you’re not calling them with good intentions: you’re calling them because you want to know where they are, if they’re home, who they’re with, is anyone home with them?

This type of harassing behavior could end up with an AVO, so wait, this is not the way to get your ex’s attention!

Mistake #8: Stalking your ex regularly at places where you hang out

Well, all of a sudden you have this crazy desire to be wherever your ex goes, because if you’re not there, how are they going to think of you now that you’re not together anymore, right?

MISTAKEN! Not only will this not seem like a coincidence, but it will actually put your ex off, your friends and your ex’s friends off, and you could end up with a nice visit from a cop!

Mistake #9 – Lending money to your ex

So you are throwing good after bad money at your ex because you think that this way you will be able to keep in touch with your ex and “he will owe it to you”.

WRONG AGAIN. You are setting yourself up for not only an emotional but a financial downfall here… Once your ex knows that they can come to you as their ATM, they will be feeding you lies and bullshit to make you feel like you are special to them. .. but there will always be a BUT!

Mistake #10 – Staying a friend of your ex’s family

While there’s nothing wrong with being on friendly terms with your ex’s family, if you suddenly start dating them in hopes of accidentally bumping into your ex, that’s not a good thing.

Mistake #11 – Trying to make your ex jealous

The key to making someone jealous is NOT to make it obvious. Unfortunately though, a lot of people aren’t very good at this and make it abundantly clear when they have their cousin’s best friend from the interstate playing their instant love interest when they come into town for a quick visit.

In fact, you’ll have much better luck if you move on with your life and aren’t afraid to meet new people.

Mistake #12 – Having sex with your ex

Yeah, a guy emailed me recently saying we just broke up and we’ll see each other tomorrow for sex, is that okay?

Why would you think that’s okay?

I mean, if you want to be your ex’s boyfriend or girlfriend, you have to stop acting like their girlfriend or boyfriend when you’re no longer in a relationship with them; otherwise, what incentive will they have to get back together with you? .

Mistake #13: Constantly asking your ex for a second chance

You can’t get by without your ex, that’s for sure, but you don’t need to constantly make it obvious to your ex all the time.

While that will certainly stroke their ego, it will also probably drive them totally crazy, so stay away and you’ll get much better results.

Mistake #14: Talking bad about your ex with your family and friends

Unless you plan to never get back together with your ex, don’t badmouth him or her to everyone close to you. And definitely don’t reveal some juicy details that your ex would die if he knew you told him.

You have to think about the big picture here… Your ex will never come back to you unless they feel 100 percent comfortable doing so.

Mistake #15 – Talking bad about your ex to his family and friends

It applies even more to your ex’s friends and family. Never think for a moment that they will keep their conversations with your ex private.

If you talk bad about her, you’re not only going to upset your ex, but also their friends and family!

Mistake #16 – Organizing pity parties

Another desperate effort to get back together: making your ex feel so sorry for you… some people even dare to say they will kill themselves if they don’t get back together.

Not only is that blackmail totally childish and an unfair type of pressure to put on your ex, and your relationship, even if you did get back together, would have little chance of success!

Mistake #17: Driving your friends and family crazy by always talking about your ex

Okay, this is going to sting a bit, but you had a life before your ex, and guess what, you managed to have some interesting conversations before you met your ex. So don’t drive your friends and family crazy or isolate yourself from the people who really care about you.

Mistake #18: Appearing needy and clingy with your ex

This may be your gut reaction, but all this behavior will do is reinforce your ex’s desire not to be with you because you are so demanding.

Mistake #19 – Giving threats and ultimatums

You are desperate and acting totally irrational and all you want is for your pain to go away so you will do almost anything to get your ex back.

Doling out threats and ultimatums will not bring you a happy ending, so behave with dignity and you will be surprised at the difference.

Mistake #20 – Being vengeful

You’re angry and you want them to get hurt, so you’re going to return the favor, right?

MISTAKEN! You have to think long term here… that will not only anger your ex but everyone he knows and could also get you in a lot of trouble with the law!

Hey, I said 20 breaking bugs, but I’m going to add one more for good measure, okay?

BONUS – Mistake #21: Making false promises that you will change

Granted, we all have a few little things we could probably improve about ourselves and some of them might be pretty realistic… however, others don’t even bother.

While it’s possible to dress yourself up a bit, there’s no point in pretending to be someone you’re not because your armor will come off when you least expect it and you’ll be alone again anyway.

Now that’s quite a list, isn’t it?

Do you know why these are so common mistakes?

Because your emotions are completely out of control as a result of your break up and you will do ANYTHING to make the pain stop and get your ex back.

You and I know that acting this way is not the real you, right?

You’re not a stalker, you’re not generally clingy, needy, desperate, or even as obsessed as you’ve been lately!

Let’s put the shoe on the other foot for a minute. If your ex was acting the way you have recently, would YOU want them back?

No.

Let’s face it: you’re high maintenance, you’re emotional, you’re clingy, you’re desperate, you’re obsessive: you’re NOT the person your boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband fell in love with?

How to completely wipe the slate clean

The first thing you need to do is accept right now that you ARE broken (but in your mind it’s temporary).

So what you need to do is heal AS FAST AS POSSIBLE so that you can unleash your true self under all that emotional turmoil that your ex falls HEADLY IN LOVE with.