Has your heart broken? How to deal with painful moments in your relationship

Have you discovered that the man you love has betrayed you in the worst possible way? Are you upset and depressed at the thought that he might do that? Are you struggling to give him and trying to forget what he has done because he has broken your heart, but you don’t know if you can? It would be easy if you could just hate him and move on, but the fact is you still have feelings for him. That makes what he has done even worse because he has not only destroyed your trust but also broken your heart.

Does he deserve a second chance?

So the question you need to ask yourself is if you give him another chance and try to find yourself trusting him again. If you are thinking about this, then no doubt he has asked you to forgive him and give him another chance.

In a way, it’s good that he at least acknowledges and understands that what he did to you was terrible. But it’s hard to get over the fact that this man you thought you knew and loved with all your heart has broken your heart.

The only way you are going to get through all of this is to look at what happened and try to understand why it happened. While you’re at it, honestly take a look at what your relationship was like before any of this happened.

Did love slip through the cracks?

Did you think you had a solid relationship or were there some cracks that you tried to ignore? If you can see that you might have had something to do with their unhappiness, then you need to decide if there are things you could have done differently.

If he talks about how he felt you were shutting him down or that he thought you didn’t care, you may have a different set of issues to deal with if you decide to try again with him. If that’s the case, it might be a good idea for the two of you to seek counseling to resolve some of your issues.

That scenario is very different from the one where you’re just making excuses, rather than having an actual reason. If you always wished she would treat you better, or questioned her love and commitment, then what she did may hurt, but are you really surprised? Do you really want to get it back under these circumstances?

Forgiveness is one thing, but forgetting and trusting again may not be as easy as you hope. His betrayal will remain in the back of your mind for a long time. And it’s going to be triggered by a number of things.

If he says he’s going out with the guys for a drink or two after work, if he tells you he has to work late unexpectedly, if he lets his cell phone go to his voice mail instead of answering when you call.

It’s not easy to decide what to do when he has betrayed you and broken your heart. If you need help sorting through your feelings and deciding what to do, I’d love to help!