How to show your affection without going overboard

It is in a woman’s nature to be affectionate and loving, and this tendency tends to come out quite strongly when a woman falls in love. The problem starts when you become too motherly, clingy, or possessive without realizing it. If you want to keep your guy, you need to learn to show your affection in a way that your partner can easily appreciate.

Tip #1: Timing is important when showing your affection.

There is a right and wrong time for everything, and being affectionate is no exception. You have to be considerate not only of your partner’s feelings, but other people’s as well. If your boyfriend is the reserved type, for example, he may not feel comfortable holding your hand in front of his boss’s. If his parents are secretive, then it might also be better not to be sensitive to your boyfriend when you first meet them.

Being considerate may mean giving up the opportunity to hug and kiss you a few times, but being considerate is sure to make your boyfriend appreciate you more. It’s a win-win situation then.

Tip #2 Get creative when you show your affection.

Sometimes it’s not enough to just say the words. Even though you mean them every time you say them, they tend to lose their value when you say them too often. Sometimes you just have to find more creative ways to be loving. Actually, anything goes as long as you understand what your boyfriend is and he’s not likely to appreciate it.

Tip #3 Never forget the little things when you show your love.

You don’t have to spend huge amounts of money just to let your boyfriend know you care. Sometimes it’s the little things that count the most. Laugh at his jokes, try harder to understand his work, spend time with him fishing even though you hate him. In the end, it’s really the thought that counts.

Tip #4 When you show your affection, your goal is to please your guy and not yourself.

This is a cardinal rule that, unfortunately, women often forget. When you’re feeling jealous or insecure, for example, you might feel the need to cling to your boyfriend just so everyone knows who he belongs to. You become too affectionate, calling him with all the cuteness you can think of.

While you’re too busy making eyes at your guy, you don’t realize that the object of your affection has also become an object of shame. Unless your guy is completely dense or insensitive, he’ll probably know that you’re doing all these things not because you want to show affection. You do it because you’re jealous and insecure, which is not only unfair but also immature.

Put yourself in your boyfriend’s shoes. You want him to be affectionate with you for no ulterior motive, right? It’s the same for him. Show him your affection because you care about him and for no other reason than that.