My girlfriend wants to be friends – what can I do?

She sits you down. break up with you As the smoke clears, that’s when she mumbles that dreaded phrase that no one ever wants to hear:

“Okay, we can still be friends…”

Their dude. That’s what you are to her right now. You’ve gone from being as close and intimate as two people can be, and in the span of a single day, your ex suddenly wants nothing more than to be your friend.

Or she?

You will hear many people tell you that they ‘remained friends’ with an ex after the breakup. Hell, you might even see some of them hanging out. But that is on the surface. This is how things seem to be. In reality, however, understand this:

YOU CAN’T BE FRIEND WITH YOUR EX GIRLFRIEND

You don’t even want Because in any ‘friends’ situation with an ex, a person he always loves the other person more. There are always unrequited feelings when it comes to breaking up, because every breakup has a winner and a loser. FOREVER.

It’s always funny when you hear someone say that a breakup is “mutual.” This is unmitigated bull, no matter who vomits him up. Even if the couple is mean to each other, even if they’ve broken up through constant fighting, in the end, there’s always ONE person who says “Hey, this is it,” and the other person has to sit back and pretend they are. this. agree with her, when in fact that was the furthest thing from the truth.

How to handle being on the losing end of a breakup

Alright, now that you’ve realized that you’re the ‘dumpster’ and that your girlfriend is the ‘dumpster’, you can move on to what you really want: getting your relationship back together again. This is something you can only achieve once you’ve accepted that your relationship is finally over, and haven’t tried to drag her through some silly “let’s be friends” nonsense.

Honestly, you don’t want your old relationship back. You want to get your girlfriend back. But she wants her in a new relationship; one free of all the crap that caused your breakup in the first place. One that allows you both to start fresh, instead of having to repeat the same old things you’ve been fighting over for months and even years.

Soon, you’ll be using some shortcut strategies to change your ex’s mind. It will happen fast, so be prepared for it. But this can only happen if you are willing to do the exact opposite of what you are doing now: break ties and move on. Cut the ties of your past relationship and don’t embarrass yourself by clinging to some lame promise of friendship.

Why Being Friends With Your Ex Girlfriend Never Works

There are many reasons why staying friends after a breakup is bad, but first let’s take a look at what your girlfriend wants. Clever? Okay:

• She wants the security of knowing that ‘you’re still there’, so it’s easier to break up with you.
• She wants that security because ratify his decision to break up with you.
• She wants to see you upset and dejected, because makes her feel like she won when she broke up with you.
• She loves the attention of knowing you still love her while she stay away, safely broken with you.

Do you see a pattern? Good. Because most guys who are okay with the “let’s be friends” nonsense after the breakup aren’t. They’re so desperate to stay in their girlfriend’s life, even as something as pathetic as a “friend,” that they’re willing to forget about the part where they practically destroy any chance of getting her back.

When you remain friends with your ex, you are providing comfort to them. Security. Safety.

You’re giving him a shoulder to cry on. An ear to talk to, whenever she feels sad or lonely, so she can cheer herself up.

Staying friends means she can see you NOT hanging out with other people while you’re waiting for her. And yes, she knows perfectly well that you are still waiting for her.

Most of all, by asking you to be your ‘friend’, your girlfriend has shelved you in that one place you never want to be: the friend zone.

Now the problem is you want her back. But you want her so much that you’re willing to ‘do anything’ to get her, which means you’ll go out of your way and be that good friend when she needs you.

What if you are already friends with your ex?

Have you already made the mistake of staying friends with your ex girlfriend? That is easy: leave her.

Yes, that’s right: get rid of the friendship. You don’t have to be a jerk about it, just stop texting and stop calling and stop posting on their Facebook page.

And when does he call you? Stop taking those calls. He stops responding to her text messages, and when he starts with cute lines like “Hey, did you fall off the face of the Earth?” make sure those text messages are received with MORE silence.

The silence he feels should be deafening. Make HER feel alone. Make HER wonder where she went. And after a few days of this? She replies with a single mysterious line: “Sorry, I’ve been busy.”

It’s none of her business what you’ve been busy with, because guess what: she’s not your girlfriend. Think about it: if you were to question her about what she’s been doing with her, she’d take it as if you were trying to get back in a relationship with her. Therefore, she receives the same treatment.

There are many different ways to attract your girlfriend, but the most important thing is to have a step-by-step plan first. Don’t act without knowing exactly how to handle your ex’s most common responses and without knowing exactly what to say and do.