My husband can’t even keep eye contact with me after his affair
I often hear from wives that their husband has a lot of trouble coping with after he was caught cheating or having an affair. He is often embarrassed, embarrassed, nervous, uncomfortable, humiliated, or a combination of all of these things. Therefore, it can be quite difficult to deal with him after the affair, let alone to improve her problems or save her marriage.
I recently heard from a wife who said, “My husband would not admit his affair to me. In fact, I told him my suspicions very frankly and he denied it with everything he had. In fact, he acted hurt, like he was horrified.” that he would suspect or accuse him of such a thing. Still, something told me things weren’t right. He still suspected that he had cheated on me. So I hired a private investigator to follow him. And sure enough, the investigator quickly caught him cheating. Once they told me where he was, I waited for him and confronted him as soon as he came out with the other woman. Needless to say, I made a great scene. I know my husband was very embarrassed, but he totally deserved it. Since then, I have told him what a liar I think he is. Still, there’s a small part of me deep down that doesn’t want to leave my marriage. I expected my husband to do it right away. apologize and beg for my forgiveness, but he hasn’t done that. He avoids me. He interrupts me when I try to speak. Basically he makes it clear that he is not going to talk about it. How can we even begin to heal when he acts like this? And why is he acting this way in the first place?” I’ll try to answer these questions in the next article.
Sometimes her husband can’t look at her after the affair because he’s embarrassed, embarrassed, or not sure what to do or say: I did not get a chance to speak to the husband in this scenario. But I have corresponded with many men in this situation on my blog. Many will tell you that they are embarrassed and embarrassed. They will also tell you that they don’t know the right thing to do or say and that they are afraid of your wife’s reaction. In this particular scenario, the husband likely felt even more humiliated by his own behavior because he flatly denied the affair in the first place.
This alone can make it quite difficult to look someone in the eye. It is important for wives in this situation to remember that they have done nothing wrong. He’s the one in the wrong, and frankly, his reluctance to look you in the face and make full eye contact is a good indication that he’s fully aware of it.
His inability to look you in the eye can be an indication of guilt or remorse, which can be a positive sign: Frankly, the fact that your husband can’t look you in the face or make full eye contact can sometimes be a good sign. Men who are outraged and deny doing anything wrong or who blame their wives for their actions are more likely to repeat those actions because they almost feel justified in their cheating.
Conversely, a man who is so embarrassed or uncomfortable that he can’t look you in the eye may well be having the difficulties he is having because he knows how badly he’s messed things up. He is having the strong reaction that he has because he is very aware of the big mistake that he has made. And this makes it more likely that he doesn’t want to repeat the same actions because he doesn’t want to feel that way anymore.
How to handle it when your husband won’t meet your eyes after their affair: Although there may be valid reasons why your husband is having a hard time standing up to you, it can be very frustrating and can delay your healing if he actually has an interest in saving your marriage. So you might want to address this the next time it happens. A suggested script might go something like “could you look at me while we talk? We’re not going to make progress if you don’t even look me in the eye. I know it’s awkward for both of us, but in order for us to make progress, we’re going to need to be able to communicate and this includes make eye contact with each other. I know this is awkward, but if you care about me and our marriage, I need you to do better. And you can start by looking at me when I’m talking to you.”
Hopefully, when you start to see that making eye contact can be the start to making things better and that you need to take responsibility for what you’ve done and be man enough to handle the consequences of your own actions, you’ll see some improvements. . And some eye contact.